I mean, the only thing standing between you and misery is your pride, and surely love is better for a single day than pride for a lifetime?
“NOTHING IS IN THE WAY, ONLY ON THE WAY,” says the narrator. Yes, that’s the way to think about relationships.
You have 50% of your life under your control. Choose which 50% with caution. Everyone has 50% control over their lives, but they don’t sure which 50% they value controlling. As a result, they end up trying to manage their entire existence, which is impossible. It’s known as half-hearted life. Do you want a half-hearted existence? I doubt it, and if you do, you should stop reading this post right now.
Because there are no half-hearted success tales, you must put your whole heart into everything you do. So, you must sometimes control your riches while letting go of control at home. Doesn’t it depend on your values?
NEVER GIVE YOUR ALL
People get into trouble with love and relationships because they believe that a relationship is the be-all and end-all of life. Most people who appreciate love and relationships, such as RUMI and Romeo, are depressed. They were displeased. They spent their entire life (and poems) complaining about how they couldn’t enjoy themselves without love and relationships. Gosh, there’s a whole planet out there to love.
Relationships don’t solve problems. They actually exacerbate problems by bringing them to the top. Relationships amplify issues. They consume them. People sometimes hope that their love and relationship can solve their difficulties. It’s incredibly enticing. I will fix all your issues and make your fantasies come true, the sex is fantastic and the promise is fabulous. Relationships promise to fix issues, but they never do. The closest a relationship comes to curing an issue is making it less acute because it feels like there’s a second person in life going to bat for you. However, in my experience, even this has its limitations.
Another reason individuals get into romantic squabbles is that they put too much mush into them. You may gain a rough picture of the real context of a relationship by dividing life into seven equal parts: career, money, health, intelligence, friends, self, and connection. A relationship is not life, love is. And you can’t love one person while despising another. Unresolved judgments about someone in the past, or their sister’s past, or their brother’s past, or their parent’s history, cause 99% of relationship failure. They grind that axe and cling onto all types of hatred so then they can’t love that in their present spouse either. Remember that every person possesses every characteristic. It’s the equivalent of sucking a dog poo lolly while kissing a prince. It’s going to make a difference. The flavor of a judgment or hatred that has been dragging itself through a person’s life becomes indelible. Even when they meet their soul match, they taste bad. So it would be prudent to use mouthwash. Process old dirty laundry, emotional baggage, and truly turn up.
This is what makes the difference for me.
I believe that life is a journey, and that even sorrow can teach and guide us. My pain has a purpose, so when I feel it, I let it all in and don’t hold anything back. I’ve gone to get help to complete a trash form, and other times I’ve gone through a ream of paper, 400 sheets of paper, noting the garbage. Each day, I place a high importance on reopening my heart to love. I make sure there are no grudges or regrets regarding anything in my life. , In six minutes, I learn more about myself, my work, my life, my people, and my human nature than a lifetime of meditation.
Pains and difficulties do not get any easier, but they do become shorter. My first heartbreak took three years to heal, and the last three hours. Yes, I’m good at the forms, but I practice in between performances, and I do it on small things so I’m confident in the major ones.
So, here’s the rub about love and life from my position.
You can’t go wrong with this. You can’t go wrong if you try. You can only go wrong if you try half-heartedly.
When in doubt, pull out.
It’s over if you’re being safe, self-protective, or careful in love.
There is no middle ground.
You, with all of your baggage, enter the partnership. The term “electronic commerce” refers to the sale of electronic goods.
Give it all and if it finishes sweetly, right in the heart.
Unconditionally love your ex.
A few pointers on being self-assured and pouring your whole heart into a relationship.
Create a routine that works for you as if you are single or as if you were single, and don’t change a single molecule of it when you are double, with the exception of swapping going to the pub with friends for a date night.
Compromise kills love and, as a result, relationships. When you come to know yourself, you continue to do the things that make you a better person, even when you’re in a relationship.
Concentrate on love in the other six aspects of life, as well as in your partnership. The collapse of relationships is caused by overloading them with too much pressure to achieve happiness.
When you begin a relationship, focus on fulfillment and being fulfilled; don’t burden your partnership with the task of making you happy. Relationships are not for happiness, because happiness is like an Ogre, always hungry and never satisfied. When you arrive in your relationship already fulfilled, your connection has the potential to endure a lifetime.
Don’t spend all of your time trying to impress your partner; you could be making a tremendous mistake.